I see you handling that tantrum compassionately.
I see you encouraging your child to be polite and well mannered.
I see you unpacking that healthy lunch that took alot of prep.
I see you letting your kid be a kid; a loud, noisy, wild kid, in an appropriate place for it.
I see sometimes when your child doesn’t respond the way you want but that’s ok because I see you trying.
I want to say good job or you seem like a great mom, I want to compliment you but…you know…kids. Usually by the time i’ve had a quiet enough moment to process you have already left, moved on, gone. And sometimes I get in my way, I wonder if you’d think i’m weird for complimenting you and I decide its safer not to.
I know you want the same things I do, you need to hear you are doing a good job sometimes, and I want to tell you, I really do but most of the time I don’t. I’m working on that, maybe you are too.
There are probably lots of days another mom is admiring your parenting handiwork and just to rushed, shy, jealous or distracted to say so but you still need to hear it. You are doing a good job. If you have kids that are loved and safe and happy (mostlyish) then you are doing a good job.